How do i tell my mother-in-law that her grandaughter keeps messing with my things?

well after me and my husband got married i moved into his house and well he is in the military and overseas now but i live with his parents and twins sisters and niece...well his niece is 7 yrs old and sometimes goes into my room. she messes with my things but they tell me she just wants attention and well one time she had the nerve to put nail polish remover inside my biosilk (for the hair) i was so mad but how do i tell my mother in law that i want to put a lock on my door...i am also missing some of my jewerly....i dont want to make it seem that i dont trust them....help...

How do i tell my mother-in-law that her grandaughter keeps messing with my things?
I think you should be a little forward and say hey I am missing some jwerly I think the twins have been playing around in my room again do you think you could help me find my jewerly? If you put it like that it doesnt sound like you dont trust them...also...lock your door from time to time but npt all the time at first kind of ease your way into that and take it from there
Reply:When it comes to Grandma you can't say anything because you are wrong and it will start ww111. Instead of a lock on your door go out and buy some kind of trunk that locks and keep all of you valuable stuff in there, I know it will be a pain but it might keep the peace. The child sounds like her mother needs to set soe boundries but becaquse there is none your mil is right she is trying to get attention and negative attention works for her the same as good. Try spending some time with the child doing things, invite her into your room while you are there and show her what nail polish is used for and see if maybe giving her a little extra attention works and if it doesn't pray for a speedy return of your hubby. Good luck.
Reply:Tell the child no!





Tell her that she can't be in there unless there is an adult with her. You're part of this family! Don't be shy!
Reply:If at all possible, you need to have your own place. But if that isn't possible, and you are very certain this child was into your things, then you need to tell the mother. I would have them both together and state simply that you would prefer if she didn't go into your room when you weren't home. But when you are, invite her in and let her look and touch things and talk about them. She's wanted to be grown up too, it's an opportunity for you go get closer.
Reply:Your a grown woman and should be able to say hey stay out of my room and i want and need a lock on the door.
Reply:Just be honest with her sometimes in-laws just make alot of things complicating so just ask your mother in law and your niece and the twin sisters pretty much ask everyone in the house if they have seen any jewerly and let them know that you are missing some jewerly and if they say no we havent found any then later on just tell them that you want a lock on your door and tell them its not that i dont trust you but its more so that i am a very private person with my belongings and leave it at that and if they say no you dont need one go ahead and get one and install it when they leave or something and if they never leave than install it anyways and if they start saying stuff than tell them well look while i am here i want a lock on my door.